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Thursday, August 23, 2012

Quickly... the next 12 days.

Am going to Worldcon 2012 / Chicon 7 a week hence.  Expect disruption in service.  ;d

Might get another post in before then, might not.  

Internet access still missing from my own desktop PC.  Something broke its connexion.  Possibly the Trojan that this machine [not mine] discovered today.  Still unknown.  :c

Will attempt to Tweet during Amtrak 30-Aug and possibly 3-Sept during my travel to and from Chicon 7.  Tweets will also be irregular, as I did NOT get a phone with 'Net service deliberately, but have another device for those.  :D

Texts welcome during con.  Got unlimited texting.  :)


Sunday, August 12, 2012

Readercon and sexual predators and life.

There's been a lot said lately about Readercon 2012, the bad stuff that happened there with sexual predators, and the InterWeb has kept the discussion going.

Particularly as the entire Readercon board quit.

Some important things to help you understand that situation, and any similar predator incidents:

Gaslighting -- thanks to ashbet! 

About truth -- thanks to fallconsmate!

Why it's important to cut that creeper guy from your social group.

When you want to help someone get out of an abusive situation

I managed to escape a BF who chose to stalk me online.  He thought that since I was isolated and without income that I could not leave.  He was wrong.  If I'd needed to hitchhike, I would have, but I didn't. 

I had friends who offered to help me leave, so I packed my things and left.  I did end up getting wooed to "try again" but after some time I realized he didn't want me, he wanted a doll that looked like me and that did what he wanted. 

If he'd given me the six months I said I wanted to settle my affairs, maybe we could have worked things out; but he didn't.  He wanted control too badly.  Instead, six months after I initially left, I moved back to Michigan. 

If you haven't read The Gift of Fear, you should.  Be aware that if you have been harassed or raped or stalked, that the book will give you both hope and stress from your memories. 

If you just want to understand how NOT to hurt others, it's worth it for that alone.  But to anyone who has been hurt, chased, raped, preyed on, stalked, in any flavor of those assorted torments -- and no, I am not joking -- this read will be worth it. 

Wednesday, August 1, 2012

A handful of links and a review.

Getting ideas for writing: Confession of a Museum Bunny

Guest post: deportment at panels.

The Inkpunks have a forum! Go check it out. :)

And because you could all use a laugh, here's one from Twitter.  If that wasn't enough, there's those times when the customer is not always right.  :D

Everything is fodder for the writer.

Speaking of that, I have got the best book about that very subject and many others.  From Apex Books, Nick Mamatas's Starve Better:  Surviving the Endless Horror of the Writing Life

Nick's book is brilliant.  You should read it.  Then pass it on to all your friends who write also. 

I mean that.  I love his book.